The following comments are from those who have attended a Survivor Speakout Victim Impact Panel.
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April 10, 2024 – I attended Survivor Speakout and honestly it changed the way I seen life as I knew it. Every time we leave home, we are not promised to come back. Someone like myself, is always on the road being selfish, and has no idea the harm, hurt, and danger he/she are putting not only their self in, but others as well. From this day on I will always say something to someone I see trying to get behind the wheel impaired, also, I will always be on the lookout for others around me whom I haven’t a clue what’s in their system, but you never know when it’s your time. I definitely was impacted by this Speakout it will follow me the rest of my life. Thanks to all who made it possible, it’s a life changing session I recommend to all. God Bless. TW
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April 10, 2024 – The experience that I had during this meeting was overwhelmingly positive and eye-opening. I hope that no ever has to go through this course and make better decisions than I made for me to be here but I believe that whoever does take this course will come out of it with a better mindset by the end of the two hours. CC
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April 6, 2024 – Survivor Speakout 100% reinforced the conclusion I had came to of drunk driving not being worth it after my DWI. All of those reasons I had for it not being worth doing were selfish ones, the losses I took because of my mistake, but a few thousand dollars in fines and fees, some probation time and totaling a $20,000 car is nothing compared to taking someone’s life and leaving their family with a void that can never be filled. I now see it from both a selfish and selfless perspective, and that only makes my decision to never do it again stronger. JH
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March 26, 2024 – This program moved me…. I found myself tearing up at the loss these families had to endure and I vow to NEVER make this mistake again. God forgive me. KB
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March 26, 2024 – This program completely blew my mind. I had no idea the consequences my selfish actions could cause. Seeing the agony family members go through from losing a loved one was not easy to watch nut yet it was very important to experience. Never will i put myself and most importantly others at risk by driving impaired. This program should be required before receiving a license in all honesty so people truly understand the impact they could have on somebody’s life, and their own, every time they get behind the wheel impaired. YS
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February 24, 2024 – I’ve had an opportunity to attend this class and it’s given me a perspective that I’m sure will last a life time. Hearing and learning of real stories of tragedy, followed by hearing directly from the victim’s family will have ever lasting ripple effects throughout my life and the choices that I make. I personally want to thank all involved that opened up and shared some of the most painful aspects of their life, in effort to help educate and help prevent future pain and loss in others lives. MB
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February 24, 2024 – With the whole legal and personal process of what I am going through, this Impact Panel was by far the most eye opening and educational for me as an individual! The victims stories along with family testimonial’s hit home for me and my way of life going forward…Steve is the perfect coordinator for this program and speaks with passion! I have complete respect and empathy for (most importantly) the loved ones that represented the victims. MA
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January 25, 2024 – After going through the the program tonight I was so affected by the images and the unbelievable accidents that these victims were involved in because all I could think about was the thought of my daughter or wife being a victim in one of these awful accidents that was caused by someone just like me. I attended a similar program for Marion county probation about a decade ago and it didn’t even compare to what this program does. I think everyone who has a license should see what I saw tonight because I guarantee it would cut down on impaired driving. Steve did a fantastic job on expressing the severity of what these victims went through. AM
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January 20, 2024 – Thank you Steve, and Mrs. King. I WAS SELFISH. Those words I will never say again, because I will never be selfish with others lives. Understanding the impact of something that could of happened, I was lucky, that I was pulled over. After the presentation I seen today, and a mother missing her son, impacted me greatly. NEVER AGAIN!! TF
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January 20, 2024 – I liked that the Survivor Speakout class was emotional and a total eye-opener. Bryce King’s mother is one strong individual to be able to speak about the death of her son. I am going to make better decisions and choices. JC
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January 13, 2024 – Wow…is really the first thing that comes to my mind. To anyone reading this, please remind yourself that every choice you make can impact someone else. You may not think that you will cause harm, and I’m certain that it is no ones intention to cause harm, but neither did anyone else who made the poor choice of driving while impaired. People die…innocent people… Please please PLEASE be responsible, and never operate a vehicle while under the influence of drugs or alcohol. Thank you, Steve, for allowing us to be a part of your presentation. JF
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January 13, 2024 – My heart breaks for all of the family and friends of those whose lives have been taken or impacted by someone, like myself, who drove impaired. I did not, thanks to God, hurt anyone but myself. However, I could have and this presentation gave me a reality check that was much needed. God Bless You Steve and all the other Speakers that share your stories. MH
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January 13, 2024 – Honest, direct, empathetic, and definitely impactful. Steve presents from a place of immense love for all people: the victims, the families of victims, and those of us who made the mistake of driving impaired. JN
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November 14, 2023 – I learned my lesson and I feel bad for what happened. I saw all the videos (of the victims) and will not repeat the mistake (of driving impaired) ever in my life. JS
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November 14, 2023 – Survivor Speakout is very impactful. Having lost friends and family from alcohol related events and crashes hits home. At times after making my poor choice I saw myself deflecting or making excuses for myself. The fact is, I am grateful and very lucky I did not harm someone else. I take full accountability for what I did and have learned from my actions. The class isn’t to degrade you, it’s fair, honest, and effective. SG
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November 14, 2023 – I have to say I am not from Hendricks county. I live about 3 hours away and I’ve had a previous OWI(foolish I know) and in my area it was not mandated to do a victim impact panel. They require substance abuse classes. I have to say Steve was a great speaker was very frank but never condescending. I would also like to say I am a recovered alcoholic and that this impact panel was much more impactful then any of the substance abuse classes I’ve done. Keep up the good work! EB
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November 11, 2023 – I did not know what to expect at the beginning of the panel. It was incredibly impactful and most importantly realistically depicts the heart breaking reactions, photos, and stories the victims and family of victims had to endure. Steve is very personable and reminds the offenders that we are all on the same level. No one is better than the next, and that allows the offenders to have an open mind and heart through the panel. ST
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November 9, 2023 – I’m very grateful I attended this panel. It was very moving and hard to watch and after everything happened to me I understood the importance of driving under the influence but this panel made me even more conscious about the consequences and how lucky I am to be here because it could have been so much worst. MV
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November 1, 2023 – Wow! First, Steve was a great speaker and put together a great presentation. I was very apprehensive at first, but he made me feel very comfortable. Very genuine guy, but very real and raw. The images I saw and the stories I heard will forever stick with me! I was very irresponsible for my actions and very lucky I didn’t hurt anyone or myself! You think it wouldn’t/ couldn’t happen to you, but it very well could. The victims families are forever impacted by your choice of driving impaired! Seeing the pictures of victims before the crashes, and seeing them after will forever stick with me! The mother being told she lost her son was so heartbreaking! I do not ever want to be responsible for destroying someone’s life! Very, very impactful! It will definitely make a huge difference for me as far as ever being impaired and getting behind the wheel! Thank you Steve! LS
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November 1, 2023 – Was very eye opening and also brutal to watch. Never seen real life consequences of choosing to drive impaired. The body cam footage of the mom being notified of the lose of her son was heart breaking. Definitely makes you think twice about making bad choices. I for one was very lucky to not have caused death to myself or anyone else. SL
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November 1, 2023 – First and foremost I want to I’m so sorry to all the people that ever lost anyone due to impaired drivers. I want to say thanks to Steve for being such an angel on this earth. You are gifted and definitely respected! The way he spoke and provided us with the knowledge of how important it is to not drive under the influence will forever stick with me. The videos and stories that were shared were not only eye opening but very heartbreaking. I honestly can say I will never drive impaired ever again. I will do my best to spread the word of his important is it too! I want to be a voice for all the people , deceased and suffering from any loss. Thanks again Steve , I truly enjoyed your time tonight. RC
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October 28, 2023 – I honestly appreciate having the opportunity to attend the Survivor Speakout Victim Impact Panel. Hearing the actual stories of actual victims from Hendricks County touched my heart and hit home closer than I may have expected. Hearing the instructor tell us that he loves us and cares about our well being along with all of his other neighbors was heart warming because I was raised in a God fearing household myself! He was very genuine and I appreciate the knowledge he bestowed upon me. I definitely will be making better decisions because I do care about my life along with everyone else’s who is privileged to be on any and every road with me! Thank you so much and God Bless everyone who plays a role in this mind & life changing panel! ~RM
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September 27, 2023 – I agree with the statement you made that I am one of the lucky ones to have been pulled over from the beginning, however, this gave me more insight on if I had not been so lucky. I will be 23 so to hear the body cam footage of Bryce’s mother put things into perspective for me. What if I wasn’t arrested? What if that was my mom? This definitely helped with my sobriety. LP
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September 27, 2023 – Loved ones of the deceased are the true victims. Seeing and hearing the horror of a mother that just lost her child will stick with me for the rest of my life. KA
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September 12, 2023 – First and for most I would like to say Steve did an excellent job with the class. I just want to personally say how much this class touched my soul and struck such a major cord with me. What heart breaking stories, what a powerful message seeing this side of it. We all think that we are invincible and that no, it could never happen to me but the reality is, it can happen to anyone no matter which side of it you’re on. This class definitely helped spread awareness and I appreciate everyone involved in the process. What a powerful class and message. CW
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September 9, 2023 – Steve, I think what you do with this program is eye opening. I hope to keep my sobriety going. DL
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August 23, 2023 – Extremely moving! Certainly will make a huge difference for the better when it comes to bad decisions when getting behind the wheel. DS
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July 15. 2023 – I feel this class is very insightful of what can happen. When I arrived home I hugged my children, then I sat on my bed and cried. Seeing those children lose their lives for no reason hit really hard. DV
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July 15, 2023 – I felt like the program was a great eye opener. The part where you say we are the lucky ones is very true. I never thought of it like that until after watching the program. We are very lucky, no one was hurt, no damages to anything. Things could have turned out much worse the class was lucky. Steve thank you for the work you put into the program also thank you for no lecture and being honest about your past and keeping us all on the same level. I would recommend the program to anyone not just people who has to watch it. Its a great eye opener . Thank you Steve. RW
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July 6, 2023 – Steve, Thank You for doing what you do! The Survivor speak out presentation was very powerful! I am still thinking about it! DC
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July 6, 2023 – Now was the best timing for me to see this. I’ve been sober for 2 and a half years and I had a new baby a few months ago. I was like beyond horrified seeing the presentation, not just because it was graphic but because I was pretty cavalier about my behavior because I never hurt anyone but myself. Thank you for the reminder. I always have a lot of guilt about a lot of stuff from my past, but it really never just like hit me in the face how many times I came so close to killing someone and how petty my guilt over the injustices I did to myself are when you see it that way. I’m so glad I never hurt anyone. There’s no way I’ll be the problem in that way ever again. And not just because I’m trying to save myself the trouble of another charge. Which was honestly my main reason for sobriety and compliance sometimes. Mostly selfish reasons sadly, but thank you for making other people a little more real to me. I’m sure that sounds horrible but I don’t think I ever saw outside my own pains and problems as clearly as I did in your class. MH
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June 13, 2023 – I was so emotional when I saw videos and I decided to quit drinking and driving. SN
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June 7, 2023 – I want to thank Steve for the message he gave us I will never forget it! I am ashamed of what I did and have learned from it. It only takes a moment to destroy someone’s life or your own by drinking and driving there is no excuse for it period! The families that spoke at the victim impact panel have great courage I will keep all victim’s families in my prayers because only through our God The Lord Jesus Christ is the only way we have the strength to face each day knowing we will see all our loved ones again! JH
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June 7, 2023 – Everyone needs this even new drivers. DW
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June 7, 2023 – I want to thank Steve Pyatte and (the) families who came to talk to me and share their stories that evening. I was court ordered to come, but I’m glad I had too. I will never forget that evening listening to everything that was said to me. I am a very emotional person, and ever since my arrested at the end of January to the night of the impact class, there hasn’t been a day to where I wanted to make better decisions in my life and be a better person. I will now be the guy who makes sure everyone has a safe ride home at the end of the night. Thank you again for touching me that evening. SL
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April 8, 2023 – The program was very hard to listen to but worth the time. I appreciate Steve, Officer Hays, and Amanda for their time. I can’t even begin to imagine the pain and suffering Amanda shared with us. Thank you everyone for your help and time. LF
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April 8, 2023 – Attending this program has impacted my life forever. I will never be under the influence of of anything. I will never allow anyone to drive intoxicated. My heart hurts knowing any family that has endured this pain. CS
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March 1, 2023 – It was very sad and eye opening for me. I have been lucky over the years and never want to be in that situation, so I am going to try out this sober life for a change. Thanks for getting in my face about this tragedy that happens every day. It really does put things in perspective. SG
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January 14, 2023 – This program was very impactful. Helps you take accountability and also acknowledge the impact it has on everyone around you. It’s very selfish to drink & drive. Steve was very honest & direct. I loved the panel family & the videos. CJ
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December 7, 2022 – It was a very helpful class when I attended! It was useful and it guided me to a right direction. Thank you again for this class!
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December 7, 2022 – I feel the class was very real life, I see these car crashes on the news and I am aware this happens, but to see the video and the victims speak is much closer to the heart. I want to say thank you for the class and your time you have invested in putting this together. RC
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December 7, 2022 – Survivor Speakout has opened my eyes and taught me a lot and not to drink and drive because it could hurt you and other people out on the roads. With that said I’m glad I learned my lesson. AD
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December 7, 2022 – You are a powerful speaker giving an important message. You come through loud and clear doing a great service to the community. Thank you! GR
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December 7, 2022 – I am planning on checking myself so I do not wreck myself. Hendricks County has made a believer out of me. Thank you for sharing! PM
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October 8, 2022 – I attended the victim impact panel on October 8th. It was very well done. The presentation was motivating and insightful. JP
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October 8, 2022 – I thought the program was super fantastic and made me really think about how drinking and driving can affect others. I truly don’t think I will ever do it again because of the impact it could have on not only my own but someone else’s life! I thought the speaker did an awesome job and his presentation was very informative! Thank you!! SS
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September 7, 2022 – I really appreciated your humanity and compassion granted to the speakers and those of us in attendance while emphasizing the importance of accountability and better decision-making. Rather than being scolded, you allowed us to tangibly see the consequences of bad decisions and the unintended outcomes as a result. This experience has resonated within me to move forward from my mistakes I don’t intend to repeat. Thank you for all you do for the community. AP
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September 7, 2022 – It is a shame that the class is necessary and I am in the boat. That being said, excellent job. It was very well done, intense but not accusatory class. You should be proud of the balance that were able to achieve. DB
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July 16, 2022 – I appreciated your presentation. You surely sent the right message across. Hopefully it will just take one of these panels to connect with them (younger generation). This is unfortunately my second and hopefully my last occurrence of impaired driving. The statement of impaired driving really struck home with me. I really appreciated the time I was there. I was totally dumbfounded when the young lady stood up and told her story. I’ll never forget it. It was presented in a way that everyone in the room will remember. JC
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June 2, 2022 – (Survivor Speakout) was very educational and very heart breaking. Was heart breaking to see the videos and hear the mother speak about her daughter. I will forever remember the entire thing. But what upset me the most was looking around at everyone in the room with me and no one from what I could see showed emotion or compassion towards these lives that were lost. I cried during and even after talking about it to my mom the tears just kept going. The mother was so brave and has such a huge heart to be able to come to these speaks out years after the tragedy and have to look at all these people in the eyes and most with no emotions thats the most heart breaking. I thank you all for doing this for people and trying to make a difference and helping save lives. Thank you so much and I wish the best for the families. MB
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June 2, 2022 – “The impact of this program and those like it truly will save lives. It puts into perspective how bad decisions affect not only yourself. It is an invitation to make better decisions instead of a session that places blame.” CM
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June 2, 2022 – “Thank you again for the presentation and talk that you coordinated and presented last night. You have my most sincere thanks and appreciation for what you do. I was very moved by what was presented last night……and my heart truly went out to the extraordinary people who lost their lives and their families and friends. It was a solemn occasion and I was very touched by it……as well as your concern for me. Please know that I am very glad to have been present last night to listen to your words and to see and come to know of the faces and lives of so many victims….and the strong advocates for such a worthwhile and important cause. Thank you so much.” SR
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May 14, 2022 – Outstanding job on getting the point across without feeling like you’re attacking the crowd. I didn’t feel attacked and I didn’t feel like I wanted to just shut down and not pay attention. Outstanding presentation and putting it into context. Great job to Steve and to all involved with Survivor Speakout. I will be attending these meetings as a guest and hope to bring people with me to open their eyes. Much respect and God bless! RW
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May 14, 2022 – This panel was very informative and moving especially hearing from the mother of a victim and someone who caused a death from their actions it put a lot of things into perspective and definitely made a big impact on me. DH
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April 6, 2022 – I found Survivor Speakout appropriately real. You convey the message in your face but with passion not anger. Having a victim/ or a person just like everyone else there talking hit pretty hard. I’ve been sober for 2 years now but it still sent a message home. I actually think about it a lot. JM
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March 2, 2022 – The class was a good reminder of what the dangers are of driving impaired. It was really eye opening to see Justin Land’s victim. Knowing him and hearing about it didn’t do the photos any justice. It’s one thing to hear about what someone did. It’s another to see something like that. Just glad I’m not living like that anymore where I have to worry about me possibly causing something like that. SC
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March 2, 2022 – I definitely enjoyed the class. It was an eye-opener. Yes it was harsh but sometimes we need that to wake up from our bad judgment. I believe you when you say you care about individuals because you show it. I will come away from this class realize in the consequences of getting behind a wheel impaired. This also changes my judgment when I ride my Harley. EB
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February 23, 2022 – This program is such a great eye opener. I left this program thinking about all of the survivors and ones that lost their lives. I couldn’t help but sit there and apologize to them in my head over and over again. Everyone always thinks “this won’t happen to me” or “im fine” but you’re wrong. It can and it will happen. This program makes you cherish what you have because it can be gone in a blink of an eye due to a selfish choice. The things that were shown and said will forever be stuck in my head. The staff and guest were amazing and are only there to help you, not treat you like a bad human. JJ
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December 1, 2021 – Awesome class very deep!!! TH
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December 1, 2021 – Although this was required for my probation, it was very impactful for me. I have a 20 year old daughter who drives at night for her job, and seeing those mothers talk about losing their child in such a horrendous way really hit home. I am one of the lucky ones and thought so even the night I was arrested. As a nurse, I’ve always cared for others and I’m not sure I could have lived with myself if I had hurt someone by my choice to drive drunk. I relate to Kristen because I thought I was ‘okay’ and left a party not 2 miles from home, and was pulled over in front of my subdivision. I always tell my kid to drive safe and be safe, but it wouldn’t matter if others aren’t doing the same. I realize that I’m good fun without alcohol and really am not missing anything that great. I watched my mother die from cirrhosis and swore I’d never be an alcoholic. But even if only ‘social drinking’ I still made a poor choice. Thinking is definitely impaired, as I was always one to grab someone’s car keys if they were too drunk to drive. This program would be good for ANY driver, especially with everyone on their phones and not concentrating on just driving. Thanks so much for what you do, and God bless all of you who put themselves out there for this. KC
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December 1, 2021 – The presentation was very enlightening and informative. EP
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December 1, 2021 – I was a bit apprehensive when I initially found out that I would have to attend this meeting. If I’m being totally honest, I was mad. I felt like a criminal. It just seems like every week I am having to give more money to Hendricks county, schedule a drug and alcohol class, spend 72 hours at the work release program etc. Not to mention that every single day, I have to call an automated number to see if I have to “test” that day. I was pulled over after after leaving a friends house, just sharing a few glasses of wine, less than 8 minutes from my own. Just 2 turns to my house that I had driven 15 times. I was pulled over right in front of my neighborhood. Why me? This wasn’t fair at all, I thought.
The day of the meeting I was talking to my mom and I was complaining that I would be missing my daughters senior guard meeting and a fun dinner afterwards with all the guard moms. As I was talking to her, I stopped mid-sentence and thought, “Oh my goodness, think how these speakers must feel that they have to come out, on a cold December, so close to Christmas and talk about a loved one that they lost due to an impaired driver! They won’t ever get to do another thing with the person they lost and I will have many. How down right selfish of me to even be a tiny bit upset! I am so fortunate to be sitting here and given another chance to make a different choice, if ever in that situation again.”
I thought it very kind that Steve started out telling us that no one is “mad” at us, no one hates us and that all they want to do is help us make a better choice if there is a next time or we are around someone that we feel shouldn’t get behind the wheel. It’s like he was in each and every one of our heads! It was a great way to start the meeting out, helped my entire body relax and opened up my heart/mind even more. Thank you for that.
It was quite evident that every single person in that room was moved by each speaker, to include Tamatha’s poem and Lt. Jeff’s info. We ALL felt it and saw it in each other as we walked out of that room. Each speaker had a different story to tell. Although the pictures were horrific and unimaginable to a person never to have experienced anything close to this horror, they were on point and served the purpose of reality. This was not a TV program, this is REAL and this is why you shouldn’t drive while impaired. IT CAN HAPPEN TO YOU! It could have happened to me or anyone else in that room, no matter how little or how much they had in their system or how close they were to home.
I appreciate each person that took the time to speak to us that evening and I feel that the program is very beneficial. Thank you. SE
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March 3, 2021 – I wasn’t exactly sure what to expect the night I attended Survivor Speakout. I knew it would involve something to deter me from ever getting behind the wheel of a car after drinking. The atmosphere was light and friendly upon check in. However, the next two hours were heart wrenching and almost surreal. Hearing the family members tell their stories of their lost loved ones was very challenging. But not nearly as challenging as seeing the images of the crashes and autopsy pictures. All the while, knowing those same family members were watching and reliving their horrible experience over and over again. I can’t imagine any compassionate person in that room would ever get behind the wheel of a car again after drinking. GB
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March 3, 2021 – This class touched me deeply, the young girl who lost her sister, the women that lost their babies, all because of someone’s selfishness! I was also touched by Steve’s story. It wasn’t me I hurt for, but those I hurt or could have hurt during my selfish moments of drinking! I no longer drink and drive. I did not set out to drink and drive. I wasn’t thinking of the outcome! And I will never allow that to happen again. I was touched deeply by this class. I appreciate all of the strong voices I heard! Their words and losses will forever be in my mind! I’m so sorry to all that I may have hurt, I’m embarrassed and that’s okay! I deserve to be embarrassed! I deserve everything I got! I just want to thank you all for doing what you’re doing, it truly makes a difference! You all rock! Much love to you all! JS
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March 3, 2021 – A very eye-opening and thought-provoking presentation. The speakers worked together like a well-oiled machine. It hit home for me because I was one that received a phone call in the middle of the night when one of the victims died. (One would think I would have learned then.) I was also impacted when Steve said “I don’t care if you lost your job.” I was one of the selfish ones worried about my job. BC
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March 3, 2021 – I accompanied my dad to Survivor Speakout. Powerful doesn’t even begin to give this program justice. We had NO Clue what to expect. I left feeling physically and mentaly drained. I am probably the one percent who has never driven under the influence. Our hearts were so heavy for the families losing their loved ones. Everyone has a story. Unfortunately, this program is in existence, but I AM SO thankful it is! The message has to be said! Consequences of choices! Thank You ALL for bettering our future. God Bless. DW
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March 3, 2021 – This class was very eye opening, reminded me of the stupidity of my actions, I appreciated the speakers (victims’ family members) as well and felt horribly bad for them. JK
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(September 2, 2020)
Man that really changed the way I think and really truly appreciated the opportunity, It gave me clear vision to just give up drinking and continue to do God’s will and works. I pray for the families that they give their hurt and pain unto the Lord, and pray for them to have the peace that surpasses all understanding. I pray for the ones in prison and thank the Lord that he sent that (officer) to pull me over and saved my life as well as somebody else’s possibly. CH
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(September 2, 2020)
I found that the last presentation with the photos of the deceased and the vehicles was the most powerful and thought provoking. ET
(March 4, 2020)
This was a very Eye Opening Experience. If attending The Survival Speakout Victim Impact Panel doesn’t really affect the vision of your future, then I’m afraid and pray for what lies ahead of you! Steve was an excellent instructor who didn’t make me feel shamed for being there but rather just concerned because he Genuinely Cares for the people he is speaking to and about! A lot of the stories and Videos were really hard to watch and listen too but at the same time had my complete and full Attention! I just pray most of the people in the room were affected the same way I was by attending! God Bless Everyone who spoke and helps make this class a reality! God bless our Police officers, And God Bless all of the victims and families that we have placed in harm’s way with our Poor decisions! Only we can change our future, and at the same time change other innocent peoples fate. SB
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(March 4, 2020)
I have two daughters that are about the same age as the victims. To see and hear graphic details of their last moments on earth were heart wrenching and really hit home. Steve utilized a good combination of stern and serious, yet empathetic and sincere as well. My eyes welled at moments throughout the video. Sometimes with thoughts of my children potentially being victims and how devastating that would be. However, I was mostly impacted by Anita and Hannah. The amount of courage it would take to recount the loss of your loved one, and actually see the pictures again of her lifeless body and put yourself through that again. All to try and help change even one person’s decision making or perspective on driving under any influence. I looked back while her daughter Elizabeth’s story was being recounted in graphic detail along with her singing and giving a speech the week before. My heart was completely aching for her and her daughter Hannah. Who now looks so much like her older sister. I have so much respect for everyone involved. I appreciate everyone that spoke and took the time to try and make a positive impact. BE
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March 4, 2020)
I had interest in attending this panel after seeing Steve Pyatte was the coordinator and looked forward to hearing from him. Didn’t realize I could register as an offender. After looking closer, and with my court date set for the next morning, I decided to attend. I have attended one before for a prior, but was not close to emotionally challenged as this panel was – fighting back tears through every speaker. CG
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(March 4, 2020)
It was an eye opening experience for my daughter and myself. Hearing the mom and sisters stories about what happened to their innocent daughter and sister. Also, the young man that was responsible (for another young woman’s death) and his consequences. LL
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(December 4, 2019) What a great presentation. Is eye opening, very real And oh wow that poem that Tamatha read at the end it touch my heart. Thank you so much. It was an awesome experience. WW
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(December 4, 2019) First, I would like to express my condolences to all. In 2006, my uncle shot himself in the head in my grandparents living room. I was there when the cleaning crew got there and turned on their lights. I will never forget what that room looked like, the blood on the carpet. Steve, I can empathize with you. In July 2019, I snorted a line of heroin and got in the car to pick up 2 of my children from my mom’s house. My girls were 2 years old and 6 weeks old at the time. I passed out driving and was heading into oncoming traffic on US 40 and Center Street in Plainfield. By the grace of God, the car stopped and I didn’t hit anyone. I was arrested and placed on probation. I struggle with my addiction but I am trying daily to become a better person, the person I want to be, the wife my husband deserves the mother my children deserve. A couple of weeks ago, I found marijuana in my 15 year old son’s room. I am terrified he is going to go down the same road I’ve traveled and I don’t want that for him. I would like for him to attend the next survivor speak out, if that is possible. Please let me know! Thank you. KW
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(December 4, 2019) Highly motivated not to drink and drive. My heart goes out to the survivors. TW
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Very powerful messages in the speakout (September 4, 2019), opened my eyes to a lot. Very thankful for the class and what I got out of it. I think it’s a great opportunity for people to see the effects of their actions and to see what could happen to people and their families in the light of drunk/impaired driving. EB
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(June 5, 2019) In such a setting as a victim impact panel one is given an opportunity. A doorway to choose honesty. To stop and be honest with one’s self about why I am here listening to this sobering information. These gut wrenching realities. I left with a new clarity on just how selfish my choices and actions were and a new determination to turn my life around and be of value in my community rather than putting others at risk because I am a selfish fool. Seems harsh? Not really, no it really isn’t. I believe truth is powerful and exposing people to truth will sow seeds and a reap a good harvest. The courage and fortitude of the victims who share their story to help others is heart breaking yet inspiring. Keep up the good work and thank you for the valuable lessons you present at these meetings. It is extremely worthwile.
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(June 5, 2019) I would like to say that this program is very moving and should touch so many lives. It definitely touched mine. The speakers were so amazing to be able to tell their stories especially with how close it hits their hearts. I believe this program should be even more involved with more people to prevent these tragic things from happening. It is an eye opening and soul touching program and I will be suggesting to people I know to attend as well. I want to thank everyone ivolved in this for their strength and also pray for all families involved in loss and life changing. Thank you and God bless.
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(June 5, 2019) I would like to start by thanking you for your time. I felt the format, and information in the SSO meeting was excellent. I appreciate the fact that family of victims are willing to tell their tragic experience and/or face the cause of their loss. It truly was an enlightening session, and again appreciate the time from everyone involved.
CJ
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(June 5, 2019) This program is truly moving. I knew I had made a horrible decision the night it was made, but this program will stay with me forever. It honestly made me feel that any teen about to receive a license should attend. The speakers all spoke to us on a very real level and I will carry their words with me throughout life. I couldn’t be more sorry for the choice I made that night and thank God I wasn’t hurt and didn’t hurt anyone or cause any damage. This program was a blessing and made me feel the need to be further involved in any way I can. MJ
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(June 5, 2019) This is a definitely a worthwhile program. I feel very lucky that I didn’t hurt someone or worse for my selfish behavior.
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(June 5, 2019) I am grateful that I was able to go it was a real eye opener. Before coming I said I wouldn’t drink or drive again and I’m not! But seeing those images and that mother touched me in a way where I see everything so different and would never want to hurt anyone nor myself and would be just as mad if that ever touched my family. Thank you Steve for what you do you sure will be one of many who has turned my life around and for that I thank you! God Bless. BW
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(June 5, 2019) I thought that Survivor Speakout was very real. It will make a person think about ever driving drunk. The speakers were great. PS ——————-
(March 6, 2019) I felt it was a very eye opening program that will stay with me forever. MB
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(March 5, 2019) I went to this program once before and I got alot from it. (2014) Unfortunately I had to do it again. This time I was so profoundly grateful to Steve and Tamatha and Deputy Hays and the other speakers (Anita Tate). I was touched to the core by the stories I heard. I took away so much more this time around. If I ever find myself in a similar situation I will go back to this presentation before I drive under the influence. I recommend this to everyone who needs to complete this process. You will not be disappointed! It may seem like an inconvenience of probation but you will not leave the presentation thinking the same way!! HS
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The speakers and videos definitely make an impact on me. (March 6, 2019) CS
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Although pretty graphic, it is factual. I am not a drinker and driver and this was an isolated circumstance I had put myself in. I am not a drinker, and digusted with my own choices. I look back and know I will never ever put myself in any situation like that ever again. I should have called someone no matter how fine I felt. After seeing the real life situations and listening to Anita Tate talk about her daughter I felt her pain. (March 6, 2019) My kids knew of these kids and I remember Elizabeth and Nathan Gentry stories. This experience made me see them in a way I did not want to think of anyone’s child. I have my own children and would be insane if someone drinking took one of my children or grandchildren. I hurt a lot of people that care about me, trusted me, and even looked up to me. I am the trunk of my family and I shed a lot of leaves that night and I have to grow back bigger and stronger then ever. I will prove myself worthy of being trusted again. KM
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Intense for we are talking about real people . Having the family members and the people who created the accident, listening to the stories. Therefore knowing it happened makes it intense. Thank you MTC
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While I Can not say my experience was a pleasant one (March 6, 2019) i would like to start by saying, I Couldn’t Imagine being a victim as the Parent Whom Spoke, I thought initially that Steven was a bit of an Jerk but by the end of being informed of my Ignorance I found myself not being able to impress others the way he left me the day after. I can not thank him enough for every word and approach he presented, It was necessary to get my attention. I will never be the same after seeing the reality of Victims impact. My wishes are that this would become Mandatory in every School and other events, it will Change everything about the way you Drive and your awareness of other Drivers, I find myself begging My Wife and family to watch for Impaired Drivers aggressively. I Can not thank everyone involved for this reality Check, and pray for the previous victims and the future Ones. It is hard to say but Thank you.
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I think it was very helpful; (December 5, 2018) it puts you in the shoes of the other side of the situation and does make you realize how truly lucky you are. I cried when both the mothers spoke and I’m just so thankful I didn’t injure or kill anyone else or myself. Driving impaired is very dangerous and very stupid. I’ve made this mistake more than once but I know for certain attending this panel made a difference in my thought process. The pictures will definitely play in my head before me or anyone I know gets behind the wheel while under the influence of anything. MC
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Thank you to everyone that spoke (December 5, 2018) it really impacted me. I wish I would have went through this whole thing before I was arrested. I feel strongly that if this was shown to people in high school then things would be a little different. I would have done everything different that night. I would never want to put any family though the trauma and sorrow. NF
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I attended the class on December 5, 2018. This is a very powerful presentation. I am a first time offender and let me just say, it will be my last. This truly hits home for anyone that has children, loved ones, or just anyone close to their hearts. It’s a real eye opener. We all seem to think that it will never happen to us but this program will show you just how wrong we are to have that mind set. I am amazed at the courage that the speakers have after such tragedies! I applaud them and I would never want to be in their position! Thank you for allowing me to see that I am the “LUCKY” one. PM
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Thank you for a great program! (December 5, 2018),I was very nervous & anxious about attending, but it was perfect, and I am now thankful I had to go. It’s something that everyone should see at some point. Had I seen your program sooner, perhaps I would not be in my current situation. If you ever need volunteers to help with the program, I would love to help — even just paperwork or stacking chairs ;-)) Thank you again for a very worthwhile program. AT
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Being from Hendricks County my entire life and knowing some of the victims, this was indeed an eye opening experience! I can 100% guarantee that I will never again be behind the wheel of a car impaired in any way! I had made that vow to myself prior to attending SSO (September 5, 2018), but those images are forever etched in my mind! I will not be the person that causes this kind of unbearable pain to anyones family, friends, and loved ones! I am fortunate to be one of the “lucky ones!” Thank you and I hope that you continue to make the impact that you made on me! God Bless!! DF
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After the presentation (June 6, 2018) I was glad I got pulled over. I am the one who said this to you the night of the presentation. This has changed my life forever. I am fully focused, sober, etc when I am driving now. I truly thank you. CE
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My experience at the survivor speak out (June 6, 2018) was very saddening. My heart was broke for the people who had to experience losing a loved one. I will never drink and drive againI actually quite drinking because of my experience. I would feel very deeply sorry if I killed someone or if my children had yo grow up with out a father. I appreciate u showing me that it has opened my eyes to the realization of the problems that exist in the world if more people had to do that every week or even once for some would never drink and drive. My condolence to everyone that has lost someone dear to them! BL
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I am a repeat offender and have attended this program 2 other times in Marion County. This (Survivor Speakout, June 6, 2018) was the most impactful of them all. Some of this is in part to the changes in my life this time around. However, I couldn’t help but consider how my family would do if they would have lost me in any capacity from my poor choices. This was also the first time I heard a testimony from an offender. It was frightening to hear it from the offenders’ own mouth and imagine that it could have been me. The crash site and autopsy photos were jarring and will never been forgotten. I have already shared this experience and talked about how insane it is to drive under the influence to several people outside of the meeting because of this experience. EM
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Great program, although I feel as though I already put myself thru that class myself I’m glad it was there to reinforce me on new path I have set for myself. I was worried I would be shamed and that is not at all what I got from this class… just a reinforced wake up call. TE
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I been there’s on June 6 (2018) at the hall of Survivor Speakout when your speech, honesty When I listen your speech and the victims’ families told us about their story it’s really touch my heart. I am so sorry for all the victims’ families and I thank for all those who give us the best way to go safe others people and safe our children and communities, including my family and myself. I never thought about it could happen to us any day in a second when we drive with drunk, yes it could, so you change my life which is for the movies you show us. I sure I will never ever drive again when I drink a beer. Anyway, I thank you for Steve and all the victims’ families who share us their stories and show me the best way things to do. Sorry for my broken English, I wish I can speak & write perfectly as my first language. Thank you and God bless you Steve and all the victims’ families who lost their life. DT
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The program (June 6, 2018) is definitely a game changer, my thoughts are just like someone help you not to commit mistakes one day and your helping us out not commit it one day; I would like to do the same with others by showing the videos and showing the true effects of our mistakes; is there a way to copyright or give out at the end of each class a dvd/cd of the PowerPoint/video that is shown and help spread us out the word of how lucky we are? My prayers went out last night to the families that were victims as at the end we are all victims. JJ
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I really appreciated attending the Survivor Speakout program. (March 7, 2018) Everything that you spoke about I have been working towards since my accident. In this life we live we must first be able to admit the things that we need to work on. Also be grown enough to admit when we are wrong and accept every action that comes with being wrong. Cognitive Dissonance over everything. I appreciate you sir, your delivery is everything! Keep teaching the way you do whether they get it now or in the future! Be blessed and thank you again. DS
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It was the most heart wrenching experience. (December 6, 2017) Although I was/am aware of what can happen seeing the hurt, pain, devastation and experience of people who have died, survivors living with loss and visually how graphic accidents are. It was utterly horrific and I do not want to be responsible, see or want to experience such. I am remorseful of my decision to drink and drive and although I did not have an accident am horribly saddened. It was the most difficult thing I had to watch and I am definitely not going to drink and drive, will strive to encourage others not to do so and would always suggest others if they are incapacitated to get a lift home but definitely do not attempt to drive. It was a major eye opener for me and I am totally glad that I attended the panel. I have learnt my lesson. Thank you for allowing me to experience this. Those images would forever be etched in my memory and would be a constant reminder to keep me on track and to help others from making that mistake. CH
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As someone who’s never been in trouble and made a terrible choice to drink and drive one night I was so affected by this program. (December 6, 2017) I can’t imagine the pain these families are going thru. As a mother I can’t imagine losing a child or them losing me. The pictures of the victims will forever live in my head. I pray for the families and hope one day they find comfort. AK
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I wasn’t sure what to expect prior to coming to the Survivor Speakout (December 6, 2017). I had already felt horribly about what I had done, especially by creating danger for others. After seeing the videos and photos you showed us, I felt even worse. I never meant to put anyone in danger, but I did. I regret what I did. I always told myself I would never drink and drive. I don’t remember making the decision to drive after I had way too many drinks at a friends house. No one stopped me either. No one cared enough to tell me I had too much to drink, or even take my keys from me, but it’s not their fault. It’s mine. I’m the one who drove after making the decision to drink. I put drivers on the road at risk. I put my family at risk. I put my life at risk. I have learned a lesson, not just from the Survivor Speakout, but with what I could have potentially done to my family and families of others. It’s not easy to feel this way, but the way the families feel that lost loved ones is worse than anything I could feel about what I did. Thank you for putting together your meetings to show people about the dangers of what they did, not just for the danger we put ourselves in, but the pain we could have caused others. I felt their pain. I lost my mother to suicide and I started using alcohol to cope with my anger and pain. I got out of control and this OWI was a wake up call that I was traveling down a slippery slope. Thank you again for what you do. You are saving lives. AH
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I found the presentations (December 6, 2017) to be both very powerful and moving. It was a vivid reminder of what’s really at stake, and I for one am thankful for having attended. KL
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(December 6, 2017) Although I have already decided not to ever drink and drive again, this pushes the issue even more! This was very beneficial to me! Thank you for all that you do! BW
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(September 6, 2017) Wow!! This time I have received the wake up call! The energy in the room was just different then the last time I was there. Or maybe my mind was open this time, I wasn’t thinking that can’t/won’t happen to me the whole time. I was thinking that could’ve been me as the hairs on my arms were standing, as I listened to the saddness in the victim’s families voices. I can’t imagine getting a call like that about my little brother who is about to start driving or my twin cousins who just got their licenses or anyone close to me! I am disgusted that I have made this mistake more than once, that I do not value my life or life of others as much as I think I do. Since I have moved back to Danville from being away for awhile, I have learned how much I appreciate being apart of this community. It’s individual like you (Steve Pyatte), Mrs. Hasty, Jerry Cunningham, Mr. Peters, and Coach Barber that make this community great! I want to be apart of this community in a positive way not someone people look at and call a failure or whisper behind my back, but talk about me in a positive way. I do not wish to fear law enforcement in this community, but to embrace them for laying it on the line for me and this community each and everyday. So thank(s) again to you and your team for making it real this time for me and for being apart of this community! Sincerely, DM
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I’m glad I got to attend survivors speak out. (September 6, 2017) Really opened my eyes to what I did and I’ve learned that it was the dumbest decision I’ve ever made. Not only could I have hurt myself but I could have killed an innocent life. I also learned and realized that I could have taken myself from my daughter for one dumb decision. Just want to thank you for opening my eyes and making me see the big picture. This class is definitely not an inconvenience made me see my life In a whole different way! AW
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I felt the program was very well organized and efficient. (September 6, 2017) The words of Steve (owner) spoke to me as he spoke on a personal level. It also helps that he has also been in my position. Just never got caught. When I first arrived I did have the attitude that it was an inconvenience and it was just part of my probation. And it’s funny because Steve looked right at me when he said “some of you are here because you have to and it’s just an inconvenience, just $30 out of my pocket.” Throughout the course my attitude changed. When Josh (Stroud) spoke about his dad and his experience it hit me hard. Because I’m very close to my father and it would probably kill me if that happened to me. I want to say thank you to all the men and women that spoke last night. I will honestly say that I will call a family member or friend to drive me next time. Thank you, AD
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I really appreciate the education on the reason it is not an accident to get a DUI. The information that I received from the 2 hour session (September 6, 2017) really helped me to really think about the choices I have made to drink and drive. I am lucky that I caught and didn’t take someone’s life. I appreciate the program informing people in my situation and would really like for this to be something that is taught in high schools all over the world. This really opened up my eyes to a bigger picture. I use to think that it was just my luck that I got caught, now I can say that I’m glad an officer pulled me over and didn’t allow me to take a life or my own. I say thank you to the program and keep informing people. I am a strong supporter of your program now. Words can’t express the way this program has impacted my life. For those people that think I’m just saying something good to look good, take the class for yourself. I use to think I knew it all, but the vivid pictures and stories of others has changed my mindset. We, as people, should always listen, learn, and apply what we have learned throughout our lives. Keep up the work. JA
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I came to this meeting (September 6, 2017) not trusting people that are supposed to serve and protect…but something happened to me tonite at this speak out meeting. I realized that there are some good policeman out there that are truly trying to help I witnessed people that had lost their loved ones from drunk drivers and people that actually was the cause of someone’s death by driving under the influence and seen some of the most horrifying pictures I’ve ever seen I will never again get behind a wheel under the influence I want to thank you and everybody in this project for opening my eyes.Thanks again. LL
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(June 6, 2017) Very great program, learned a lot and makes you realize how dangerous the decisions you make can be and how life changing one decision can be, thanks for taking your time out of your day to teach people. I give it an A+. CM
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I found your (June 6, 2017) program informative as to the dangers of DWI, OWI, or DUI. I believe that more should be said about a persons body being able to build up a resistance to alcohol and/or drugs to the point where they induce more to get less of the buzz/high they’re seeking…It is a good program! RH
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This was one of the best class (June 6, 2017) I have had since I was teaching PTSD classes to my fellow Marines after our time in the War Zones in Iraq. The impact was incredible and hit the target point as directed. I have seen death and the aftermath up closed and it is not pretty and how you and your panel gave their own accounts hit me in the gut again. It remind me of when I first actually took life in combat and had to review the target to make sure my mission was complete. I know I made a very stupid mistake of OWI and have not had a thought of a drink since. I will not be one of those 1 out 3 repeat defendant on this subject. Again thanks and I planned on attending more in the future just to keep me focus. BB
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I recently attended the March 1st, 2017 panel and I was enlightened by those who stood before the group to speak. The officer spoke about the side of a police officer, which was insightful to know what they go through with such charges. They are truly trying to save lives. Inconvenience is a keyword in such that you are not inconvenienced by the charges or payments rather that if you were to hurt someone you have inconvenienced someone of their life as well as thier family of ever seeing them and that is far more agonizing than probation. The victim’s families shared the stories of the days that would impact them years to come. The ones that struck me the most that of Nathan Gentry and Ron Stroud. When I listened to Josh Stroud I could see the pain as he explained that fateful day. Nathan’s mother’s story was compelling because the pain of parent reminded me of my daughter who was born recently. She like the .270 is a reminder to not make mistakes like I did July 1st, 2016, the day of my arrest. I will educate her about driving under the influence when she is old enough. Thank you for the opportunity to learn more about the consequences of driving under the influence as well as a thanks to those whose willingness to share their stories to educate drunk drivers of those consequences. GW
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(March 1, 2017) Everyone should see this presentation. It is a stark, in your face, reminder of what can happen when we make poor decisions. RF
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I was a guest at your presentation (March 1, 2017). It got to me real bad. I will never drink or smoke dope and drive again. I feel so sorry for the Victims. The videos I saw About the ones getting killed I will never forget. my heart goes out to the family’s that lost there love ones due to an impair driver. The reason I was there is cause my son was one of them drunk driver. I am so glad he got pull over before he kill himself or someone. I don’t know about anyone else there but it sure the hell made a big impact on me. I Promise I will never drink or take drugs and drive. The presentation was great heartbreaking but great. You may e-mail me back if you like. If I can do anything to help please let me know LO
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I just want to say how much of an eye opener this experience was for me (March 1, 2017). There are so many different emotions that you experience during this and none of it is a good feeling. I think the thing I appreciate the most of it all is the reality of it all. It definitely hits home for me. My mother attended with me. She has never been in trouble but it did make her aware of other factors that could play into something like this, not just drugs and alcohol. I feel that both of us definitely benefited from this experience in different ways which is a great thing. your program is amazing and honestly if it doesn’t open peoples eyes once they leave that building, there is no hope for them. I honestly think that if you don’t leave with any sort of guilt feeling or shame or heart ache…..I don’t I can’t put it into words. my mother and I were sitting there crying our eyes out for these families. the families that were sitting right behind me watching the last video….tears falling from their eyes….and that broke my heart worse. you were absolutely right…..I was a lucky one…..I got pulled over. but never again….situations like these…..we are selfish….I have a 14 year old daughter and all I could picture was her in Josh Stroud’s place….all because of a selfish decision I decided to make. thank you so much for putting this program together…..my thoughts and prayers will forever be with those families. VV
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The SSO session that I attended (March 1, 2017) was very moving and emotionally filled. Steve did a fantastic job of presentation. His ability to scold the crowd while still feeling love from him at the same time was by far one of the best mixes in, I don’t want to use stage performance because I don’t want it to downplay the severity of the situation, but his stage performance was powerful and I thought he did a great job. The victims all did a great job and it took a lot of courage for them to stand up in front of a bunch of offenders and tell their stories. I think anyone turning 21 should go to this survivor speak out. Going into it I was thinking, man this is going to suck and be a waste of time. I was really dreading going before hand. When It was over I was completely shocked. It was absolutely the opposite. The speak out blew my mind in the amount of seriousness and not so subtle presentations. If nothing else positive comes from my experiences from my stupid decision previously then this was worth it to hear about the families that had lost so much. I usually don’t leave feedback on anything unless I believe in a product. This is definitely a program I believe in and am happy to have attended in my life. If you have to go to this, then there are a lot worse things you could have to go. If you are a guest and want to take someone who is just learning to drive, or just turning 21. I would suggest taking that young individual. I hope this program is around when my daughter turns 16 because I will be taking her to this or one like it. JH
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This was an amazing program to learn about good choices bring good consequences where as bad choices bring bad consequences. Absolutely, I was shocked to hear from real victims how DUI effected on their lives. Instructor was awesome with clear & loud Voice. Well done. It went into my head and I was in tears. RC (attended SSO on December 6, 2016)
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Thank you for providing the SSO last night. I had no idea how incredibly difficult it would be to sit there alone. I honestly don’t know a time where I’ve been so emotional. I was deeply touched by Jordan’s story, realizing that could have been me. The young man who spoke of his father’s death when he was only 10 years old broke my heart. How brave he & his family were to sit there through the video presentation. Speaking of video, Nora was right, it was reality, much worse than any horror story I’ve seen on television. And lastly thank you for sharing the story of your son in law, as someone who has deep depression, I could identify in a minor way. I’m sorry for your loss. Best wishes & Merry Christmas to you & your family. JR (attended SSO on December 6, 2016)
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I thought it had some more impact on me! Very well done, it actually brought tears to my eyes!! From the man that went to prison, to all of the people that were killed by impaired drivers. When I was in jail for my offense I had decided right there and then that I was not going to put myself in that position again. This impact program just put the exclamation point on that. I promise to god, family and friends I will never drive impaired again!!! Thanks again for this program. TT (attended SSO on December 6, 2016)
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I honestly found the SSO to be like a reminder of how lucky I truly was. I could have hit someone when I crashed my car, or I could have killed myself. Hearing Jordan speak and watching the video at the end was what really did it for me. I already knew from the moment I crawled out of my car that I would never drink and drive again, but seeing the victims’ family members speak and all the cars with the victims in it really hit home. SS (attended SSO on December 6, 2016)
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I want to start out by saying I went to the Dec.7 2016 SSO program and that it was very tear jerking and a learning experience too. The families, and videos that were there to show what alcohol does to innocent victims really should be shown out there more before it happens. Nobody deserves to be in that situation. I can say I am ready to make a better for myself without alcohol involved. I pray for others who see life a better way without the bad it brings in life. Bless all of the families of the innocent victims, you and missed ones are in my prayers. God bless. SP (attended SSO on December 6, 2016)
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I believe the presentation was handled in a professional manner. Could tell that a lot of valuable time was put into everything. The videos/pics were pretty graphic, however minimal compared to what the victims and their families have or had too endure. The horrific tragedies they have experienced and continue to experience for the rest of their lives is sad to think about and is unimaginable. It made me think about of how lucky I really was, that things could’ve been worse. I’m thankful for the police officers, judges, probation officers, counselors and for everyone in our community that has to deal with or is affected by people and their poor choices(can tell they really care about their community). Listening to everyone and all sides of the stories, helped to put things into perspective of what could happen to any one of us. The lady who spoke and lost her child brought tears to my eyes, knowing she isn’t able to experience the things that we all take for granted when she cried I could feel her sadness and pain when she spoke. My heart goes out to her and everyone there last night. BE (attended SSO on December 6, 2016)
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I think that it was eye opening. I expected to be picked apart and called a horrible person. Instead it was more towards telling us how lucky we got. The message I got was were humans, we make mistakes and that court stuff really is no fun but that I got off easy. I know I can’t change my past but I still have my future! On a final note I would like to thank Steve and all of the victims for taking all the time to care to speak to us that they all will remain in my thoughts. SM (attended SSO on December 6, 2016)
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I thought that the program was very influential and should continue to serve as a tool to hopefully stop drunk driving. It brought to life the consequences of drinking and driving and that is something that I think people need to see. ER (attended SSO on September 7, 2016)
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There was so much emotion being wound up in the room that I felt my heart drop for every victim affected by people like me. Although my situation did not result in a death or injury, I still felt responsible. I was especially intrigued by Jordan Pratt and the victims situation. I have a 17 year old daughter and I don’t think I could ever forgive the offender involved an outcome like that. I do not blame the families for their jagged words and sharp tears. I am deeply ashamed of my behavior and my ignorance. Even though I do not know the turmoil those poor parents are going through, I can surely taste their tears. The speaker Steve is absolutely an amazing spokesman. He is 100% authentic and radiates an aura of love, respect and contempt. I could not get a good nights sleep for more than a few days after this presentation. I mentioned to my wife that if there is some way I can try and give back or help out to this program that I would indeed enroll. She agreed and said she would join me. Thank you, JS (attended SSO on September 7, 2016)
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Prior to attending this program (June 1, 2016), I was admittedly indifferent about the content, context, and impact that this session would offer me. By content, I ignorantly concluded prior to going that this would be a stereotypical session normally offered through a high school equivalent driver’s ed curriculum or similar; a light hearted production, with the occasional speaker belittling the participants; no real engaging content to which one can connect to. I was heavily misguided in my assumptions. By context, halfway through the program, the speaker’s repeated words kept haunting me: “Choices & Consequences.” In addition to his words, he made a statement that I will never forget. Directed at the whole group, he stated that we “intentionally” drove impaired and put at risk the lives of innocent people. It took me a couple of seconds to comprehend the context of this statement. He followed with, “You intentionally chose to get impaired, you intentionally turned the ignition, you intentionally put the vehicle in gear, and you intentionally stepped on the gas.” An overwhelming sense of shame came over me, as it finally dawned on me that this was a factual statement. For the last five months, I have compartmentalized that I never intended to drive impaired, or to endanger the lives of other drivers, pedestrians, or even my own. I was also heavily misguided in my rationalization. The fact remains, I intentionally did do all of those things. By impact, the light hearted production I had assumed was much heavier than I could have anticipated. The imagery is forever embedded in my memory banks. The lifeless bodies and empty expressions on their bloodied faces will haunt me. Some more than others, but one in particular stood out. I hope to never see it again. I have a four year old daughter that is my greatest accomplishment. My mind for the first time visualized the possibility of either her, my wife, mother, father, or sister laying there motionless, bloodied, and disfigured beyond belief. Victims by the hands of an individual who made an irreparable choice; a life altering choice, a choice with the power to destroy the lives of the innocent within a fraction of a second; the choice to drive impaired. I can never fathom the loss, injustice, carnage, and soul wrenching chaos that an impaired driver can cause. I was fortunate; law-enforcement intervened. I pledge to never drive impaired again and to endanger the lives of others, my family, including my own. I will lead by example and one day impart my daughter with one of life’s most valuable lesson… “Choices and Consequences.” Have personal integrity, be guided by a moral compass and choose your path wisely. The ruinous consequences can never be undone, a life taken can never return, and what may seem like a harmless act, may in fact expose itself to be the exact opposite. RP
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I took alot from Survivor Speakout (June 1, 2016) and it took a lot to hold emotions and tears back. I didnt consider myself part of the group because I smoked a bowl with a buddy instead of drunk driving, but as the seminar went on, it made me realize that, while marijuana isn’t “as bad” as alcohol (i dont drink much as it is anyway) it is still an impairment, and ultimately, while I didnt hurt anyone or get hurt myself, I did cause another vehicle to hit the median on Rockville Rd. It could have been so much worse, and the images from the scenes you showed up popped in my head. I still have trouble trying to get the images out of my head and try to just focus, but there is a reality to these things that no one really thinks about, especially me. It makes me slow down more when I drive and focus more instead of just trying to get where im going. The whole thing about thinking about me me me, I honestly thank you for the lesson I learned in that course and will keep in mind from now on. DR
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I attended the March 2nd, 2016 session as a guest with my son. What I heard from the guest speakers and saw on the video was so heart wrenching, and breath taking. It’s hard to imagine that we deal with this on a daily basis. As the mother of 3 I can’t begin to imagine the pain these families have and continue to go through. Unfortunately this is the second time my son has been to this Survivor Speakout. My son’s vice is alcohol, so it’s been quite a roller coaster in our home for the past 10 years. Alcohol and drugs change a person and we saw this in our son. As bad as it sounds my son was lucky. I wanted my son to see my pain and sadness, so I told him I would be joining him for this, and he asked “are you sure”? He said “I don’t think you understand how graphic this will be”. Well-he was right, it was graphic and hard to hear and see. I thoroughly enjoyed listening to Steve, Tamatha and the Sheriff. I didn’t feel intimidated, or like any one was being judged. Steve is a good speaker and you can tell that he cares, and wants to help people. I like the way Steve described or referred to people struggling with drug addiction. Steve said “it’s a disorder”, it’s a disease. In my mind it’s comparable to being a diabetic or having cancer, it needs to be treated, and each person requires something different. The drugs or alcohol are not who they are, they are still Mark, Bob, Sally or Jane, and their illness is the alcohol or drugs. It was nice having someone be so genuine with their message, and shake your hand, and thank you for coming. Knowing the pain and worrying that I have personally gone through with my son, I wouldn’t hesitate to share more graphic pictures, and if you have children or baby’s share them to. I’m a firm believer in taking responsibility for our actions good or bad, and Steve did a fantastic job of making it clear that everyone sitting there couldn’t blame anyone but themselves for being there. Thanks again for providing this and allowing me to be a guest with my son. SJ